Dating As An Alpha Woman

I decided that it’s finally time to talk about dating but from the perspective of an alpha female. Dating nowadays sucks and dating as an alpha woman seems even more difficult. Alpha females are self-sufficient with big hearts who love hard. However, potential partners tend to look the other way when they encounter an alpha female. They are either intimidated by her, don’t want to be challenged by her, or don’t believe in alpha characteristics being tied to a female. 

Alpha women are independent hard workers. We are fearless leaders who are confident and strong. We are not afraid to speak our minds and are very self-aware (with high emotional intelligence). We are highly ambitious and obsessed with learning, growing, and being successful. We are hard-to-impress and easy-to-bore. And last, but certainly not least, we’ve got our sh*t together. Someone is reading this saying, “and that’s why yall are single.” LOL!!!! Actually, we are single because we want to be; alpha women are not afraid of being alone. We aren’t picky, but we are particular. 

The qualities of an alpha woman may be off-putting, but they are actually what make us an ideal/great partner. Partners shouldn’t seek out alpha women unless they are ready and are okay with being challenged. Alpha women will believe in you more than you believe in yourself. We will not be yes women and we will proudly voice our opinion about any and everything. We will push you to reach your full potential and help you see the heights that you can reach. We do not seek the perfect partner, but instead, a partner who continuously aims for more. A partner who understands the value in communication, growth, and LEADERSHIP. 

Alpha women are typically drawn to partners who challenge them, who are as ambitious as they are, and who understand her lifestyle. As a self-sufficient woman, it means a lot to date someone who does not feel emasculated by our success. We don’t look for yes men, but rather men who are comfortable calling us out when we are wrong. We don’t want a man who waits for us, but rather one who has his own plans. 

Despite what people may believe, alpha females have both the capability and the desire to be submissive to their partners. Alpha women become exhausted by feeling like we have to ALWAYS take the lead, speak up for others, and make all of the “difficult” decisions. This is why alpha women typically look for men who are comfortable leading and who possess the ability to lead naturally. It eases our mind to know that we have a partner we can trust to make logical and practical decisions. We actually look for men who we feel comfortable handing over the reigns to, but who also understands our personality enough to let us lead when needed. 

Dating an alpha female isn’t as bad as potential partners may think. In fact, you will appreciate the independent nature of your alpha woman. Typically alpha females are not clingy and needy and you’ll less likely feel as though you’re being used due to their self-sufficiency. 

Whether an alpha woman, a beta woman, or a woman who feels like she is neither… we all need love. It’s just about finding the right person to love us. Potential partners, in 2020, I challenge you to not waste an alpha woman’s time if you are not ready for her. She will challenge you. She will be honest with you. She will believe in you. She will push you. However, she will also love you, comfort you, and be there for you. It’s all about understanding your lady and pivoting as needed. 

To my fellow alpha women, I know I don’t have to tell you this, but…don’t settle. We will eventually find someone who understands us, honors us, and respects us.